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[logomancer]

I am sick to death of being screwed over.

During the Christmas Party, anterus, tigerofthewind, and I decided that we would move off-campus together, preferably in vond's old townhouse. This struck us all as a very good idea, given its niceness, the fact that we knew the previous occupiers to not have done terrible things to it, and its optimal location. We agreed to start looking into this possibility after winter break. Some days after classes had started again, I asked anterus when we would start working on getting this together. He said not to worry, as it was being taken care of. I asked if I was still in as their roommates. He said yes, unless I wanted out, which I didn't. I accepted this for the immediate future, since I felt paranoid after asking this question.

Fast-forward to yesterday. I asked anterus what was happening with off-campus housing. He said to talk to tigerofthewind, which I did tonight. They got a 3 BR apartment -- with the occupants being themselves and another person who was not me. Their rationale for this was that 1) they couldn't get the townhouse, and 2) they had to make a quick decision, and a 4 BR apartment cost $100 more/month to rent. So they instinctually fucked me over.

People sometimes wonder why I'm so untrustworthy of those around me, even those I consider my friends. Scenarios like the one above are why. Thanks to them and their machinations, I now have to find a place to live, with roommates not my friends, possibly for much more than what I would have paid had I gone in with them. This is because I can't go back to Charlottesville this year -- upon hearing that I might have off-campus housing this summer, my mother didn't rent a van to get my stuff back to C-Ville; this van is now unavailable. So unless I find a place to live this year, I'm screwed.

All thanks to anterus and tigerofthewind. Fuck you both very much.

Comments

Re: If its war they want, It's war they'll get

[vond.livejournal.com]

Actually if you had gotten the townhouse you could have moved in anytime you liked. All leases don't start in August, that's just as false an assertion.

Andrew not checking on it was because he put his trust in you, and that trust was clearly misplaced. If this were a minor thing it wouldn't matter, but when it comes down to housing in this town, if the situation changes you owe it to the people who are in it with you to TELL THEM. It's f'in common sense! And given that it's obvious common sense, you must have done it deliberately, and I'd call that cruel.

Re: If its war they want, It's war they'll get

[vt-andros.livejournal.com]

Bullshit. From what I've heard, you weren't planning to tell me until after TCon, giving me a whole six weeks to figure something out.

Also, for the record, not getting the townhouse would not have been a deal-breaker. I suggested the townhouse in the first place because it was 1) vacant and 2) optimal. I knew that there was a possibility that the townhouse would be unavailable. In that case, I would have been fine with Foxridge.

Re: If its war they want, It's war they'll get

[jazzfish]

I don't waste my time with drama

No, apparently you just stir it up and then wash your hands of it.

The reason I don't want to live with you is not cause I don't trust you or don't like you, but that I don't need drama spilling over into my living space day in and day out.

I'm not seeing a connection here. If you think that Andrew breeds drama, then why did you agree to live with him originally?

I will continue to act on the impulse on which I've always acted.

God forbid you give a little consideration to other people.

Sorry

I have heard some insincere bullshit apologies in my day, but this one takes the cake.

Re: If its war they want, It's war they'll get

[nixve.livejournal.com]

No, I think cruel is exactly the right word.

How dare you accuse Andrew of not acting like an adult when, clearly, you are the one acting immature (you too, Crimson, I'm waiting for you to weigh in here but don't think I'm not disappointed in you, too).

Andrew didn't cause any drama. He did everything right. When told that it was being taken care of, he let the people responsible take care of it. Had you expected him to do more of the leg work you should've damn well told him ahead of time.

If you didn't want to live with Andrew you should've just said so ahead of time. Waiting until the last minute is just pathetic. You couldn't get up the balls to tell him yourself so you just left him high and dry.

It's cruel to take someone's trust and just throw it away. Even if you don't like them at least have the guts to tell it to their face. And even if Andrew annoys you there is no reason to be so mean-spirited as to completely deny him housing.

You acted like a moron and you were cruel. Maybe that's all right with you but don't act so shocked when "drama" arises because of it. If you're going to treat people like dirt, they're going to object. And if you treat people like dirt, their actual friends will get pissed.

Re: If its war they want, It's war they'll get

[anterus.livejournal.com]

I have yet to weigh in on this because I prefer to discuss the situation in a more personal setting where I can properly take the time to explain my part in these events.

If you would like, IM or phone are options.