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I am sick to death of being screwed over.

During the Christmas Party, anterus, tigerofthewind, and I decided that we would move off-campus together, preferably in vond's old townhouse. This struck us all as a very good idea, given its niceness, the fact that we knew the previous occupiers to not have done terrible things to it, and its optimal location. We agreed to start looking into this possibility after winter break. Some days after classes had started again, I asked anterus when we would start working on getting this together. He said not to worry, as it was being taken care of. I asked if I was still in as their roommates. He said yes, unless I wanted out, which I didn't. I accepted this for the immediate future, since I felt paranoid after asking this question.

Fast-forward to yesterday. I asked anterus what was happening with off-campus housing. He said to talk to tigerofthewind, which I did tonight. They got a 3 BR apartment -- with the occupants being themselves and another person who was not me. Their rationale for this was that 1) they couldn't get the townhouse, and 2) they had to make a quick decision, and a 4 BR apartment cost $100 more/month to rent. So they instinctually fucked me over.

People sometimes wonder why I'm so untrustworthy of those around me, even those I consider my friends. Scenarios like the one above are why. Thanks to them and their machinations, I now have to find a place to live, with roommates not my friends, possibly for much more than what I would have paid had I gone in with them. This is because I can't go back to Charlottesville this year -- upon hearing that I might have off-campus housing this summer, my mother didn't rent a van to get my stuff back to C-Ville; this van is now unavailable. So unless I find a place to live this year, I'm screwed.

All thanks to anterus and tigerofthewind. Fuck you both very much.

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Jesus Christ on a pogo stick. That's really awful. It's not like you don't have a cell phone either, at the very least they should have called you right away instead of letting you find out by asking them. Let me try to think if there's anything I can do to help you out.

anterus,

tigerofthewind, when did you abandon basic human decency?

What?? That's just crappy.

I've been thinking all day about what I wanted to say when I replied to this post. I still haven't come up with anything to say other than what they did was really mean and unecessarily cruel. They could have told you they didn't want to live with you if that was the case and you could have found alternative housing ahead of time. They could have called you when they were ready to sign for the apartment. Over all, I think the choices made by them were unconsiderate and rude. You just don't treat a FRIEND like that. :(

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Actually if you had gotten the townhouse you could have moved in anytime you liked. All leases don't start in August, that's just as false an assertion.

Andrew not checking on it was because he put his trust in you, and that trust was clearly misplaced. If this were a minor thing it wouldn't matter, but when it comes down to housing in this town, if the situation changes you owe it to the people who are in it with you to TELL THEM. It's f'in common sense! And given that it's obvious common sense, you must have done it deliberately, and I'd call that cruel.

Bullshit. From what I've heard, you weren't planning to tell me until after TCon, giving me a whole six weeks to figure something out.

Also, for the record, not getting the townhouse would not have been a deal-breaker. I suggested the townhouse in the first place because it was 1) vacant and 2) optimal. I knew that there was a possibility that the townhouse would be unavailable. In that case, I would have been fine with Foxridge.

I don't waste my time with drama

No, apparently you just stir it up and then wash your hands of it.

The reason I don't want to live with you is not cause I don't trust you or don't like you, but that I don't need drama spilling over into my living space day in and day out.

I'm not seeing a connection here. If you think that Andrew breeds drama, then why did you agree to live with him originally?

I will continue to act on the impulse on which I've always acted.

God forbid you give a little consideration to other people.

Sorry

I have heard some insincere bullshit apologies in my day, but this one takes the cake.

No, I think cruel is exactly the right word.

How dare you accuse Andrew of not acting like an adult when, clearly, you are the one acting immature (you too, Crimson, I'm waiting for you to weigh in here but don't think I'm not disappointed in you, too).

Andrew didn't cause any drama. He did everything right. When told that it was being taken care of, he let the people responsible take care of it. Had you expected him to do more of the leg work you should've damn well told him ahead of time.

If you didn't want to live with Andrew you should've just said so ahead of time. Waiting until the last minute is just pathetic. You couldn't get up the balls to tell him yourself so you just left him high and dry.

It's cruel to take someone's trust and just throw it away. Even if you don't like them at least have the guts to tell it to their face. And even if Andrew annoys you there is no reason to be so mean-spirited as to completely deny him housing.

You acted like a moron and you were cruel. Maybe that's all right with you but don't act so shocked when "drama" arises because of it. If you're going to treat people like dirt, they're going to object. And if you treat people like dirt, their actual friends will get pissed.

I have yet to weigh in on this because I prefer to discuss the situation in a more personal setting where I can properly take the time to explain my part in these events.

If you would like, IM or phone are options.

Waah! Waah! I was an asshole and my position is indefensible, so I will run away from all the meanies!

Man. There are some assholes and then there are some assholes.
Don't worry too much though. If you can't get a van you can get a storage unit, and if you can't live with these people it's not as hard to find housing in Blacksburg as it seems like it is, especially if you don't mind it being nowhere near a bus route.

Very odd though. I don't know this Tiger person, but Crimson at least seemed pretty cool the times I met him. I wonder what the story there is?

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